Dating a man who smokes pot
Further Reading Dear Stanton, I am writing because my boyfriend is a daily pot smoker.We have been together for almost five years and for five years, it has been the one aspect of our relationship that I would consider a huge problem. I mean, I dont wanna have a high bf, or have a high husband who climbs into be with me at night with his mind in the clouds..makes me sad to think about it. If I didnt know him, I would of never though he was high. You can have fun and be sober(look at little kids)! If I break up with him, I'll lose the first boy I've ever loved, and I'd lose a person with so many wonderful qualities... I know he's not perfect, its just the whole pot thing kills me inside. He's come around me once when he was high, and the thing is, he didnt act too different.could still talk, he was a tad bit more touchy feely, but other than that, he didnt act too outrageous or anything.He at first did not understand why I was so against it but eventually he said he would cut back but it would take him a while to ween off it it ALTHOUGH he said he in no way was addicted.So I let it go now for a while, one week he wouldn't do it the next he's go buy etc.It also didn’t help that ALL of Nick’s friends smoked or dealt. Apparently it felt better to him, because heaven forbid it’s just me that makes him feel good, nope, weed had to be added into the mix.
I am firmly against drugs (his father was an alcoholic and died at a young age) and do not want to build a life with someone you does them even occasionally socially.
You know what makes me cry even more than the thought of him smoking? The thought of breaking up with him makes me cry my eyes, and it feels like my heart is gonna just tear in two, and I just wanna die. He's my first bf, so I guess its normal to feel this way. Heck, if I needed him to, he'd bring me my missed school work and some food if I was too tired to cook for the day, and hang out with me if I needed him too! The only worry I would have is whether he can earn a good living. Then I slowly started noticing more hints that he did it a lot. He knew I was coming and he kept texting seeming to be stalling me I finally just went over. Now I have been with friends when they smoke and its no big deal, but this time seemed different. I stood up and told them it was too **** cold and I was going inside. His friends eventually told me he made them swear not to tell me about the weed smoking all along. If it is something you cannot get over then don't settle for it. Well, he came around me high one day after school(it was the first and last time) and I felt sad and uncomfortable..wasn't acting outrageous or anything, but the thought of his mind being up up away in the clouds made me sad It was weird, ive never been around a high person before, but I could kind of sense that he was...