Chinese dating white men
Non-Japanese people in Japan often assumed that he’d come to Japan not only to do research, but also to find the “ideal Japanese wife”. The whites, the Jews, the Chinese — nobody will ever accept them.” “WHAT. From our dear family friend and her “concern” over my husband’s and my nonexistent children, to the couple at Denny’s who loudly talked about how “upsetting” and “shameful” we were, ugly commentary about my interracial marriage usually fell into three major categories. But when people did cast judgement, there was no mistaking it, no lack of subtlety. On my husband’s side, as a Ph D student researching Japanese culture, some of his peers would lay eyes on me and, without even bothering to find out if I was Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc., would roll their eyes and say, “Of COURSE you have a Japanese wife.” The idea that my husband MUST be so obsessed with all things Japanese that he had to “get him one of them Japanese girls” came up more often than I ever expected.If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point.From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys.One: They are convinced that Asian women would rather go out with white men. Are men with Asian ethnic origins justified in feeling anxious these racial preferences are actually operating in North American dating?Ronald Lee, founder of a relationship service for Asian men in Metro Vancouver, believes Chinese, Japanese, Korean and other men with East Asian roots who make these complaints are looking for excuses to avoid facing their social awkwardness.
No matter if he would be white, Asian, black, Latino or whoever – it’s his personality that made me stick with him and made me take a risk to change my whole life for him.
(NOTE: At the time of writing this, our cat is perfectly happy being the child of a mixed race household. (Bonus Experience Points if “God”, “Jesus” or “Bible” is called upon) 3. But upon moving off the US mainland, first to Hawai’i, then to Japan and Hong Kong, the reaction to our marriage began to evolve. If people commented on our racial differences, the comments often centered on me having married a “white guy.” Even then the comments were mild.
While on the US mainland many of the comments were geared more toward the fact that I am Asian, in Hawai’i my husband actually felt a bit more of the scrutiny.
As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.
On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much.
I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike.